The ***K It Diet. I won't Worry About Weight Gain During the Holidays
For the last 14 years, this blog post has been making the rounds. (Warning if swearing offends you skip it)
There’s a reason why it’s good advice. Diet's do not work.
I have had my struggles with weight loss and weight gain. When you spend over 15 years of your life trying to lose weight, you learn a lot. You know the right way to lose weight and keep up with all of the newest research and trends.
I’m one of those people that cannot lose weight unless I starve myself half to death. I’m talking about a stringent diet of counting calories and fat, measuring portions. I don’t want to live my life like that after doing that for over a year I got sick of it.
So I went back to a regular diet and the rebound effect kicked in. I was a decent weight for a few years, but life happens. I had some severe back and hip problems that helped me gain weight. I’ve been struggling with the weight, and it won’t come off of me.
I knew I was doing everything you’re supposed to do. Heck, I spent the past two years in training for half marathons. The way I was eating the weight should have melted off.
Then I remembered the Margaret Cho *uck It diet. I then just let it all go. The expectations. Dieting. Portion control. No more forcing myself to go out and run in the dark because I could not run during the day.
I know too many women who decide that for some arbitrary reason during the holidays they must be a certain size. A Christmas Party. New Years. Whatever. They will pick the latest diet trend or worse crash diet. The glitch is the minute you go back to living your life the way it is before you’re going to gain that weight back.
That’s the thing about weight loss it’s not just about the weight coming it is literally about changing your whole life. It is a forever commitment. That’s why the *uck it diet appeals to me so much and works for me because instead of focusing on arbitrary things and stressing myself out and raising my cortisol levels and making weight loss even more difficult I'm focusing on what matters.
That is living my life and not obsessing if I can eat this or that. Did I work out hard enough? None of that matters if it's making me miserable.
Guess what it’s working. I didn’t let myself have french fries for almost an entire year you know what I’m eating french fries and guess what I’m losing weight. When wasn't I eating french fries was losing weight? No.
That’s the thing about weight loss during the holiday's food is everything right now. Our Thanksgiving revolves around dinner. Christmas parties are all about food and drinks. So the matter what we do somehow food is involved and feeling the need to look our best is also a concern.
I’m not telling you if you’re severely overweight to stop dieting that’s not what I’m saying what I’m saying is letting weight loss stress you out defeats the purpose.
I need to lose quite a bit of weight, yet I'm not missing out on life in the next two months. I won't let the most wonderful time of the year become a nightmare because I'm afraid of gaining a couple of pounds.
I mean be reasonable here if you go and have Thanksgiving dinner and have a little extra slice of pie or you have a cocktail you will not wake up the next morning weighing 5 pounds more.
Now, what do you do the next day if you overeat the day before?
Well you make sure you get up, and you do your regular exercise routine, and if you can put an extra 10 or 15 minutes and skip on having a latte that day or have less desert, you won’t gain the weight.
One day will not ruin you as long as you make the rest of your day's good ones.
We are at the time of year where the articles about losing weight next year and gym membership deals are everywhere.
Is it okay to have a New Year’s resolution where you want to lose 30 pounds? Of course, that’s fine, but the whole point does not let it take over your life. That’s the problem with diet and exercise programs like that your entire life revolves around the diet.
Five small meals a day or hitting the gym six days a week is something most busy moms cannot do that long-term realistically. We can barely find the time to eat once a day or shower. Not that I’m saying it doesn’t work it must work for some people because people are doing it. It is just not reasonable for everyone to do.
We should not expect what works for others to work for ourselves. We need to find what works best for us. For some, that means eating a little less and just buying clothes that fit.
Weight loss is not that complicated every day or to go for a walk for half an hour. Sign up for the ballroom dancing class that you’ve wanted to take. It’s not about going high-intensity workouts it's about getting up and moving.
You already have so much going on the last thing you need to worry about is measuring your portions or making sure that you get exactly 30 minutes on the elliptical at the gym. It’s not realistic for most people.
I understand there are women out there that have four kids they can get up and exercise before their kids out of bed in the morning and then eat the special diet. Some moms do meal prep. Some moms have more options than others. Some have the time or financial restraints that make it harder to do meal prep or get up hours before the kids.
We need to tell people it’s completely OK not to want to fit into a certain size. It is OK to say to people who want to lose weight you don’t have to eat five tiny meals a day or use portion control plates. It’s OK if you don’t want to go the gym and do an insane workout regimen. People should know they can do whatever exercise program they want it doesn’t matter what you are doing about as long as you’re moving.
Do what works for you. If that means being 5 pounds over your goal weight and being able to sleep in in the mornings, then do it. I assure you no one will notice those five pounds give or take.
If that means hiring a trainer and having healthy meals delivered then do it.
Do what is most comfortable for you. It's about living life your way and not being beholden to anything.
Yes, I do know Margaret Cho did go on Dancing With the Stars and lost even more weight. That does not change the initial message which is saying don't let this control your life.
Live your life just don't eat in excess. Diets do not work for everyone because frankly, diets are restricting what one eats. When that happens yes you will lose weight and probably too much, but then the rebound effect comes into play. Unless you continue on the path of restriction, the weight will come back hence the yo-yo dieting many experiences. What needs to happen is a lifestyle change.
So instead of going on a diet learn to eat a little less. Learn to move a lot more. I am going to have my eggnog latte and Christmas cookies and not give it a second thought. So should you.